Can This Simple Trick Get Your Child in the Mood for Homework?

Can We Control Our Moods?

We think of bad moods as something we can't control. Once they grab us, they own us. We succumb without a fight. Until the mood, hopefully, slowly lifts.

What if there was a push button for moods? There just might be.

For the last two decades I've watched as depressed, lacking-in-self-esteem children transform in front of my eyes.

A moping child comes into my Shou' Shu' class. A child with the weight of the world on their shoulders. Drooped head. Eyes that won't look up. Sagging shoulders. Children, that when asked a question, only a small peep comes out.

Within weeks, their head lifts a bit. Their shoulders are a bit more upright. Their voice louder. Soon I have them in the front of the room. Leading a class and enjoying it. This child, that only weeks ago was resigned to a life of deficiency, has found how to find feelings of elation.

Within a few months the parents come in with good news School is going better. Everything is going better. Their child actually smiles again. 

Watching this has been truly one of the most rewarding things in my life. And I get to watch it again and again. One child at a time.

Others Noticed

We were having so much success with this, it got noticed by a school principal. After bringing his own daughter in to train with us, the principal of the local elementary school, started recomending us to frustrated parents. Parents of kids with dyslexia, dyscalculia, dysgraphia, ADD and ADHD, and even Aspergers. Pretty soon our classes were full of these kids. What might have been a teachers nightmare, to us was fun. We enjoyed the challenge.

Our classes were very physical. Our classes were highly disciplined. They were exciting. Stimulating. The kids loved it. We used all of that to our advantage.

We learned a lot from observation. It became easy to spot different emotional issues as well as learning difficulties. Just by the way they moved. As we observed, We noticed a strong correlation between the way their body moved and their particular diagnosed affliction. 

Lack of Coordination and proprioception seemed to be related to learning difficulties. The way the carried their bodies was related to their emotional state. We fixed both and the results were amazing.

As their body mechanics changed, so did their emotions and their learning ability.

The Emotional Effects Were Very Pronounced

One thing we really noticed was how attitudes changed. These shells of kids came to life. Their previous depressions or impulsive outbursts faded. Their negative emotions became a thing of the past.

We knew there were many parts to what was causing the effect

• We use lots of confidence building techniques.
• Small Successes add up to positive self esteem
• Physical exercise releases endorphins
• Cross lateral motion catalyzes neuroplasticity

But with all of that, we knew there was more. We observed in ourselves, and others, that all that we had to do was start doing Shou' Shu' and the emotional state changed completely. A few minutes of the right body motion and a mental transformation happened. Emotions changed from negative to positive.

There was more going on than just the typical effects of exercise. There was some other big reason we were missing. We could see these big results. We knew that these results were unique to our program. But why?

We realized that "Motion Creates Emotion".

A persons mood can easily be read in their body. But what we were seeing was that it also worked in the opposite. Not only can the mood affect the body, but if you move your body in the right way you affect your mood.

It's easier to change how the body is moving than it is to change an emotion. So with this knowledge the body becomes the easy button for our minds.

None of this was actually new. In fact it was thousands of years old. As Shou' Shu' black belts we were taught this. Just not explicitly. 

The ancient training methods did not teach explicitly. Knowledge was hidden in cryptic ways of saying things. Nothing was directly taught. You were led down a path and it was up to you to notice the scenery. Scenery available only to a few. So few of us learned it.

Those of us with black belts in several Shou' Shu' styles recognized that the emotional response was very different depending upon the style we were doing at that moment. Not subtly different but starkly different. Tiger felt powerful, fearless. Doing a mongoose form left us feeling sneaky and devious. The crane felt stoic. 

The recognition didn't just happen at the black belt level. Black belts could easily  use it to cultivate specific emotions but students recognized the general feel good emtions that were generated. Students of all ranks recognized it to some degree. They would say things like "I don't know, I can't explain it. It just makes me feel good". They were almost baffled by it. That they could have a terrible day. Come in grumpy. Do a few forms and they were transformed like the frog prince.

Powerless Posing

Other body mechanics professionals have observed similar phenomena. Melissa Gerdes, a physical therapist specializing in Parkinson's Disease, observed the following:

"I was showing my staff how someone with PD often walks - limiting how I moved my body, decreasing the swing of my arms and the length of my steps.  Afterward I realized that even though I had only limited my movement for 5 minutes or less, my brain felt rigid for hours.  I felt limited in my thinking for the rest of the day."

The principle works in both directions. Closed off powerless body postures and weaker body motions can increase feelings of weakness, inadequacy, or other negative emotions.

Anti-Bully Posing

In our anti-bully training programs at Sheng Chi, we actually use this idea to train kids how not to be victims. It's a simple exercise that makes them aware of the principle. We have them drop their shoulders and head. They walk across the room and back in this mopy posture. They are then asked how they feel. Bad is always the response. Then we have them walk briskly with head up and shoulders back. We ask them again. Great! is the response. They are then asked which of these would likely attract a bullies attention. It's an aha moment for them as they realize the importance of how they can change and project their own inner feelings.

A Push Button for the Mind

We had a tool to change our feelings. This was pretty amazing to me. I thought it had some big implications. If we could help people change their emotional state we could change their lives.

I started talking with people about it. They gave me blank stares. Experience cannot be transferred through words. I could not explain how this worked. So my message went nowhere.

I studied neuroscience where I could. Books, Coursera courses, anything that was available. I found bits and pieces of the answer, but nothing I could explain in a simple manner. I conferred with a neuroscientist. He said the idea seemed completely plausible but couldn't point me in any good directions.

Then a friend sent me a link to Amy Cuddy's Ted Talk.

This was it. This was what I had been looking for. 

Amy Cuddy, along with Dana Carney and Andy Yap, had conducted a UC Berkeley study on nonverbal expressions of power (power posing). They found that power posing had an effect on testosterone and cortisol levels. Hormones that affect our emotions and behaviours. Hormones that can cause better performance.

This was remarkably similar to what we had seen over the last few decades. That the body could actually change the mind.

I also realized that this was a positive feedback loop. We already know the mind affects the body. If it works both ways then this effect can compound itself. We start with moving betterand we feel better. We feel better then we move better. And round the loop we go.